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Teachers

I have been easily upset lately. By people. By specific people. These people who are hurting me have been getting under my skin and really offending me. I get so frustrated and overwhelmed that I often find myself looking for ways to calm down.

And the worst part, these people have no idea how much they are bothering me. They have no clue that I get so worked up and annoyed. They are just living their lives, (being thoughtless, rude, or unkind) just doing their thing. They have no intention to upset me. (Trust me, they are way too self-centered to actually try. See? There. I did it again!)

So again today, I had a few blood boiling moments. A few moments of wasted energy. Energy that I could have been spent doing productive, good, and positive things. I started thinking about why I get so irritated and what it’s doing to me – and more importantly how I can change my reaction.

I thought back to a conversation I had a few months ago with a woman I know who has great energy and an amazing spirit. She told me about a difficult life experience she had. She was treated terribly by her coworkers because she was a woman. My friend was the only woman in an all male organization. For years she endured a torturous work environment, and yet, maintained a level of dignity.

When she told me about this experience, she mainly spoke of the last day she was at that job. Some of the men apologized to her for the mean way they treated her for so many years. They were ashamed for treating her so poorly and spoke of how they shuddered to think of anyone treating their wives or daughters in the manner that they treated her.

Her response? She thanked them for being her teachers. Her teachers. She said that each man taught her so much about resilience, her spirit, her strength, and her abilities to overcome any obstacles in her life.

So, in the spirit of my wise friend, I will send thankful energy to my teachers – those who have upset me the most and thank them for the lessons they have taught me and will continue to teach me.

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A great love

To my beautiful new nephew, you are one of my great loves.

All, everything that I understand, I understand only because I love.
Leo Tolstoy

For, you see, each day I love you more,
Today more than yesterday and less than tomorrow.
Rosemonde Gerard

If I know what love is, it is because of you.
Herman Hesse

If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you.
Winnie the Pooh

Love conquers all things.
Virgil

Love is the strongest force the world possesses, and yet it is the humblest imaginable.
Mahatma Gandhi

Love takes up where knowledge leaves off.
Saint Thomas Aquinas

We are all born for love…it is the principle of existence and its only end.
Benjamin Disraeli

Whatever our souls are made of, his and mine are the same.
Emily Bronte


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#reverb10 – Make

I’m apart of this really cool online interactive reflection – bloggers all over reflect on a word a day from December 1- 31. It’s called #reverb10. You should check it out. I started slightly late – on December 4. So far, I’ve been doing the prompts privately in a journal, but I’d thought I’d share a few along the way. Today, I’d like to share my thoughts for today’s word:

December 6 – Make. What was the last thing you made? What materials did you use? Is there something you want to make, but you need to clear some time for it?
(Author: Gretchen Rubin)

Make. This year, the best things I’ve made are friends. I have friends I’ve made in the past years who are wonderful, fantastic, supportive and lovely. I wasn’t particularly looking for more friends when 2010 began.

In my surprise, during my days at the office, I have slowly developed a number of friends through work who have become very special to me. Initially, these women were great mentors and great teachers in the work world. Now, they are not only special to me because of their professional wisdom, but also their dedication to being my friend. I look forward to seeing them everyday, hearing about their lives, family and friends. I have grown so close to them and I value their amazing friendship.

Another friend I met through work has also been a gift in my life. She has continuously invited me to a number of social events, where I’ve got to meet new people, learn new things, and gain more experiences. It has been fantastic to get to know her and her husband.

And the last friend that I’ve made this year that is really special to me is my yoga instructor. Not only does she have a spirit unlike anyone I’ve ever met, but her passion for peace and yoga has been inspiring and so influential.

I’ve made these friendships with conversations, sharing thoughts, sharing hardships. Speaking secrets, giving hope, spending time.

This year, the best things I’ve made are friends.

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Mean

I am a huge Taylor Swift fan. Not only is she a writer and producer of her music, but she also is a great role model for young girls. She may wear a short skirt now and then, but let me tell you, she’s not dancing on a strip pole like Miley Cyrus or Britney Spears did.

I’ve always loved Taylor’s music and I was so thrilled to get a copy of her latest album, “Speak Now”. In this album (as well has past albums) she calls out men who have treated her wrong and it is so fantastic. It is such great break up music and I know millions of girls blast Taylor’s music in their cars as they are getting over a broken heart.

And on Taylor’s “Speak Now” album she has a song that would have been my anthem in high school.

“Mean”.

In this song, Taylor calls out whoever is mean to her telling them she is going to rise above it all and move on with her life. This song would have been exactly what I needed in high school. High school was hard for me like it was for so many people. By no stretch of the imagination was I bullied, but I definitely had a difficult time. Basically, I had previously been friends with a group of girls that were always mean to me, so when I eventually left their group my sophomore year, they were persistently mean to me for the rest of high school.

Having said that, I’d like to dedicate Taylor Swift’s song to all the girls who are dealing with mean girls (in high school and beyond). Take comfort in Taylor’s words and know that just like Taylor says,

“You, with your words like knives
And swords and weapons that you use against me,
You, have knocked me off my feet again,
Got me feeling like I’m nothing.
You, with your voice like nails on a chalkboard
Calling me out when I’m wounded.
You, pickin’ on the weaker man.

“Well you can take me down,
With just one single blow.
But you don’t know, what you don’t know,

“Someday, I’ll be living in a big old city,
And all you’re ever gonna be is mean.
Someday, I’ll be big enough so you can’t hit me,
And all you’re ever gonna be is mean.
Why you gotta be so mean?

“You, with your switching sides,
And your walk by lies and your humiliation
You, have pointed out my flaws again,
As if I don’t already see them.
I walk with my head down,
Trying to block you out cause I’ll never impress you
I just wanna feel okay again.

“I bet you got pushed around,
Somebody made you cold,
But the cycle ends right now,
You can’t lead me down that road,
You don’t know, what you don’t know”.

Thanks, Taylor.

Thanks for not only writing this song, but also pointing out that they were probably treated poorly and that is why they are mean. Thanks for reminding us not to continue the cycle of meanness and to instead be kind.

Now I’m living in a (sort of) big old city, and while I hope they’ve changed, they probably are still mean.

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